A wife’s reverence (respect) is what a husband desires most.
A WIFE IS COMMANDED TO RESPECT HER HUSBAND
Ephesians 5:33 says, Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband. The word “Reverence” (Greek Phobeo- imperative/command) means: in awe, to revere, to reverence, or to treat as someone special.
We need to realize as wives if we do not reverence (respect) our husbands, IT IS A SIN! Ladies need to examine their own hearts daily as it says in Psalm 4:4, Stand in awe, and sin not: commune with your own heart upon your bed, and be still. Selah.
The way you reverence your husband will affect how others think of him. Their respect for him will be in direct proportion to your respect. One of the qualities of the Proverbs 31 woman is that her husband is respected by those who know him. Proverbs 31:23 says, Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.
But what if you feel your husband’s personality, character, decision-making skills, talents, work, etc… does not deserve your respect? How you feel is not the issue. God’s design for your life is the issue.
THE RESPECT IS TO THE POSITION
Husbands have been given authority over their families by God. Wives are to reverence their husbands because of this God given position, not because of the type of man he is. The Bible says a lot about man being the head…1 Corinthians 11:3 says, But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the
head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God. Ephesians 5:23 says,
For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body. Hebrews 13:17 says, Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you.
All authority requires respect from those under that authority.
Reverence shows itself with the spoken word. The example of Esther:
Esther 5:4 And Esther answered, If it seem good unto the king, let the king and Haman come this day unto the banquet that I have prepared for him.
If you review all the conversations Esther had with her husband the king, you will find a reverence in every word she spoke. No wonder the Lord could work through her.
Ephesians 4:29 Let no corrupt communication proceed out of your mouth, but that which is
good to the use of edifying, that it may minister grace unto the hearers.
Encouraging, extortive, edifying words should be a wife’s normal speech to her husband.
Proverbs 31:26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
Do a self-check! Make sure your words are both wise and kind.
Reverence shows itself in our spirit. The example of Sarah:
1 Peter 3:6 Even as Sara obeyed Abraham, calling him lord: whose daughters ye are, as long as ye do well, and are not afraid with any amazement.
Shower your husband (lord) with the same love, devotion, respect and reverence you would show our LORD in Heaven.
1 Peter 2:17 Honour all men. Love the brotherhood. Fear God. Honour the king.
Honour in this verse means “to prize”. Treat your spouse as the precious gift he is.
Reverence shows itself in our actions. The example of Bathsheba:
1 Kings 1:31 Then Bathsheba bowed with her face to the earth, and did reverence to the king,
and said, Let my lord king David live for ever.
Break the habit of poor body language, sarcastic remarks, eye rolling, walking in front of him, not looking at him when he speaks, not smiling when you are with him.
Proverbs 31:12 She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
24/7! Whether you are apart or together, your actions should reflect the reverence you have for your mate.
DEALING WITH THE SPIRIT OF DISRESPECT
1. Confess disrespect as sin.
1 John 1:9 If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
2. Be thankful for your husband.
1 Thessalonians 5:18 In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you.
3. Realize everyone has faults. Focus on his outstanding qualities.
Matthew 7:4 Or how wilt thou say to thy brother, Let me pull out the mote out of thine eye; and, behold, a beam is in thine own eye?
4. Look at your husband through God’s eyes.
1 Samuel 16:7 But the LORD said unto Samuel, Look not on his countenance, or onthe height of his stature; because I have refused him: for the LORD seeth not as man seeth; for man looketh on the outward appearance, but the LORD looketh on the heart.
One of the most helpful exercises you can do is to ask your mate to hold you accountable for showing respect to him. Acknowledge his authority to point out your disrespectful words, tone, spirit, attitude, or actions. This challenge will help you as a wife to think twice, and behave wisely.
Psalm 101:2 I will behave myself wisely in a perfect way. O when wilt thou come unto
me? I will walk within my house with a perfect heart.